It’s been a surreal week. I don’t really know how else to describe it.
So…John’s been abiding by his plan. In a way, it kind of worries me. I mean, he is going 150 mph, up at 4 AM to head to his demanding job; then driving to Harstine at 11:30 AM to work on the roof with his young helpers until the light dims, arriving home between 9-10 PM. 75 miles exactly, each way. No nap, which he has been accustomed to daily for over 30 years. Then heading straight to bed. Leaving the ibuprofen bottle on the counter uncapped and the cupboard door hanging open. He hasn’t shaved since mid- last week. (He hasn’t completely explained what’s up with that). I had him pegged, though. Last night I said, “I’ll bet during your work-morning you are counting the hours/minutes until you can hop in your truck and drive down to Harstine. And that you actually look forward to it, despite the painful, physical labor.” Vigorous nod. “You’ve got that exactly right.”
There is something a little obsessive about all of this.
It continues to be a slog, partly because the weather hasn’t been cooperating very well. High humidity, drizzly rain, and therefore a slick roof (at least where the metal is – the tar paper part isn’t, but it’s becoming more and more scarce). He sent me these pics this evening:


He will look back at this and shudder/shake his head/feel a sense of accomplishment like no other/hate the roof/love the roof/know every. single. square. inch. detail. of. that. fucking. roof.
He’s looking forward to sending detail photos to the company that he bought the roofing material from, because they treated him quite condescendingly when he opted to NOT have them do the installation (which would have cost an additional $40,000). He knows that his workmanship is top-notch and that their workmanship for that money wouldn’t have come anywhere CLOSE to the workmanship that he and his boys have been doing. I think his goal is to “shame” them. (And yet, they probably won’t care. After all, slap-dash is the name of the game in business…)
I love how he treats these two 17-year-old boys. He has truly mentored them, and in turn, they have felt comfortable taking their new knowledge and confidence to higher levels. They are cutting the metal, bending the metal, installing the metal, right alongside John. They have listened to John’s lectures on safety, and when he says, “Slow down!” while they’re up on that roof, they listen. And they obviously respect him. They take breaks together and chat, and they even admire John’s iPod music taste. One of the boys said, “Wow, all my dad likes is the old-fashioned stuff.” John said, “Like what?” “Elton John.” (Snort!) John could be their grandfather.
He just gave them a raise, too. When you appreciate the work somebody does for you, let ‘em know they are “worth” while.
(Too bad society tends to not look at things that way).
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Surreal week for me, in a way, too. I have a proposal due a week from tomorrow. The engineer project manager down in our Portland office hasn’t provided me with any information. Has not answered any of the questions for me to even begin the proposal. The RFP came out two weeks ago and since then I’ve been asking every day for the information I need to go forward. Crickets.
Oh, except for the most condescending, rude email response that I’ve ever received from anybody, EVER:
“I don’t care what you do, Tonya, since you seem to think that you are the project manager.”
It was actually worse than that (worky details that would make your eyes glaze over), and what was bizarre was that he CC’d high level managers when he sent it. Like, he felt entitled to his disrespectful, over-the-top condescending attitude and “Looky here, good-ol’-boys, I ain’t takin’ no shit off some ADMIN marketing WOMAN.”
Word about this somehow got into our legal counsel’s hands – hmm… (no, not by me! Likely one of the CC’d managers…who do tend to RESPECT me).
Could be interesting.
And in other news, my forehead is flattening from all the banging on my desk having to deal with Chucklehead. MY GOD, WHY ARE THERE SO MANY IDIOTS IN HIGH-PAYING POSITIONS?